Robert, what you said earlier was some sweet introspection.
You looked at yourself, at where you are now, and you thought back to where your mom was back then.
Becky got a raw deal. She didn't cause it to happen, and neither did you.
Sometimes, bad things just happen. Getting away from all possible causes is just a logical thing to do.
But if Helen Keller could find happiness being deaf and blind, then all things are possible.